I used to be one of those women. You know, the stupid women that looked at women in abusive relationships with disgust and an air of superiority. The type of woman that would say careless things like, “If a man hits you, just get up and leave.” Or, “Women in abusive relationships want to be in them. They could leave if they wanted to.”
That used to be me.
Until I was in an abusive relationship myself that I couldn’t get out of. One that started off as verbally abusive and soon escalated to physical and emotional abuse.
That experience changed my perspective. It woke this stupid girl up. It helped me to see that sometimes you can’t see your way out of a relationship when you feel scared and trapped. It’s so easy to sit back and judge situations and say that you’d never be that girl.
But, according to the National Coalation of Domestic Violence, 1 in 3 of us are that girl. And those statistics are based on cases that are reported.
What about the millions of women that suffer in silence? What about the women that are abused ‘occasionally’ and shrug it off (i.e. Johnny Manziel’s girlfriend).
There is a serious problem when we live in a world where a woman can be physically or emotionally abused and can just shrug it off as no big deal because society has brainwashed her into thinking that unless she is beat to a pulp that it’s not a big deal. Or if he doesn’t leave a mark then it didn’t happen. Or that verbal abuse isn’t really abuse.
There is a serious problem when we live in a world where girls are shot for trying to go to school. Where female infants are aborted or thrown away like garbage because they were born the wrong sex. Where young girls are held down while they have their genitals mutilated because they aren’t deemed worthy of knowing the pleasure of an orgasm. Where women are slipped date rape drugs and violated, and then are made to feel that what happened is somehow their fault because they put their drink down or because they chose to hang out with this certain celebrity (I’m talking to you Bill Cosby!). Where women who wear short skirts are ‘asking for it.’ Where women are so brainwashed by celebrity propaganda that they objectify themselves by posting naked (or half-naked) pictures on social media (do these ladies even realize that men don’t even have to work to see us naked anymore? We show it all on Instagram).
We live in a world where women are undervalued, underpaid and over-objectified. We live in a world where verbal abuse is viewed as a lover’s quarrel. We live in a world where money, power and influence protects the strong and preys on the weakest of our society.
We live in a world where there are still stupid women that say careless things like, “If a man hits you, just get up and leave.” Or, “Women in abusive relationships want to be in them. They could leave if they wanted to.”