How to go After What You Want


If you want a man, go after him.

Waiting for a man to come to you is so 1955.  In the past, I man would court a woman.  When a man saw a woman that he liked, he would ask her father for permission to date her.  They would go out and spend time together getting to know each other.  Then, if he was still smitten with her, he would ask her father for her hand in marriage.  They would get married, have kids, and live happily ever after.

Or something like that.

But, it’s not 1955.  It’s 2016 and things have changed.  Men no longer “court” women.  In the United States, according to the 2013 U.S. Census report, men and women are at about a ratio of 1:1 with women outnumbering men by a little less than five million.  Which means that your odds of getting a man are pretty good.

But, not if you’re sitting around waiting for him to come to you.  If you see a man you like, there’s nothing wrong with sending him a drink, or approaching him, or asking him to dance, etc.  Living by the arbitrary rules of waiting for a man to take the lead will only leave you single for a lot longer than you want to be.

When it came to my husband, I pursued him every step of the way.  Why?  Because when I saw him, I knew that he was what I wanted.  I knew that I didn’t need to look any further.  I knew he was the one.

Had I waited on him, I might still be waiting.  Or worse yet, I might have missed the opportunity entirely.  There were girls in his past that did that…waited too long and then were shocked hear that he was married within us knowing each other for less than five months.

And now we’re going on four years!

Is it perfect?  Uhm, no.  What marriage is?  But, it’s good and I’m happy and I know that I wouldn’t be here right now if I wouldn’t have gone after what I wanted.



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