Your man jumps in the shower.
You hear the water running. You’re laying in bed, comfortable…and then you see it. His cell phone. It’s right there, on the nightstand charging.
You know the passcode because you pretended to be sleeping and watched him put it in a few days ago. You memorized it, just in case.
Now, here’s the perfect opportunity to look through his phone. You know he’ll be in the shower for at least another 5-10 minutes and you’ve been wondering if he’s really been working late. You’ve also noticed him smiling while he types on his phone, and you’re wondering what he’s smiling at.
You want to trust him. You need to trust him. You’ve been together for a few months now and things are going great. You don’t want to mess it up with your snooping, but your curiosity is getting the best of you.
So, you slowly slide over to his side of the bed. You stealthily type in his passcode and scroll through his text messages, his photos, his call lists, etc. You check to see if he has any voicemails, any DM’s on his Instagram account. Before you know it, you’re knee deep in his contacts with your eyes glued to the cell phone so tightly that you don’t notice him standing in the doorway staring at you.
Been there, done that.
In fact, I’ve gone through my husband’s phone a few times. I even catfished him (long story) and texted a girl from his phone pretending to be him. Not because I don’t trust him, because I do. Not because I think he’s cheating, because I don’t. Not because I don’t love him, because I do. No…I did it for the simple reason why any woman does anything, because we’re crazy.
However, no matter how many cell phones I’ve gone through in my lifetime, I’ve regretted it every time.
For many reasons.
The first reason being that when you look for something, you’ll find it. And if you don’t find it, you’ll make something out of whatever you do find and use it to convince yourself that he’s cheating, even when he isn’t.
Also, if he’s not cheating, you then feel guilty that you looked through his phone and you become that girl. No one wants to be that girl. Trust me, I’ve been that girl a few times, and it’s never a good feeling.
Finally, it’s just not worth it. If you feel like something’s up with your man, you should have a strong enough relationship to where you can ask him straight-up what’s going on without him getting upset. If you can’t, then you probably should reconsider your relationship status.
Just a thought.